Two Fleas and No Dog
By Craig Hill; 216 pages
Regular Price: $15.00
Excerpt from Craig Hill’s Blog “What Men Value” published on January 7, 2014.
For anyone who has been married longer than a week, it’s obvious that men and women have different perceptions of value. It’s not a matter of right of wrong but rather the unique difference in their thinking. Understanding that is at the foundation of a good marriage.
Craig Hill writes a few thoughts about the general perception of men. It is by no means complete, but Craig thinks it will give women a little food for thought and perhaps help them understand their husband better.
Men tend to value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. Their primary fulfillment is in success and accomplishment. This is often reflected in a desire for autonomy and being goal oriented.
A man’s identity usually comes from his ability to achieve results. That is why one of the worse things that can happen for a man is to lose his job or employment. It can leave him feeling empty and worthless as his identity is brought into question.
One of the worst things you can do when your husband’s identity has been brought into question is to offer unsolicited advice. Why, because for the most part it is perceived as criticism. It can make him feel like a foolish little boy who is incompetent, stupid, weak, unaccepted and unloved.
Instead of advice, offer encouragement that reinforces his identity and value. And little will encourage him more than your loving passionate arms of acceptance. Do that and you may find him soliciting your advice.
You can read more about what men and women value in Craig’s book, Two Fleas & No Dog.
About the Book
“Two Fleas and No Dog” is a practical book in which Craig Hill presents 3 key elements that will reignite in your marriage the fulfilment, security, and stress-free environment you had always hoped for: Covenant, Communication, and Conflict Resolution.
In this book, Craig shares out of his personal experience the insights and principles he and his wife, Jan, have used in transforming their own marriage, and in ministering to thousands of married couples around the world. These principles and powerful real-life stories will make the book come alive in your heart – the only place from which your marriage can change.
E-Book versions for Kindle and Nook are now available. The audio book is also available. This book is also available in Spanish and Portuguese, and if you’re buying 10 or more you can get a bulk order discount!
About the Author
Having a specific interest in ministering to marriages and families, Craig Hill pursued an internship and later a volunteer staff position at the New Life Counseling Center in Denver. He subsequently taught counseling and missions on the faculty of the Marilyn Hickey Bible College. In 1987, the Lord raised up Craig as Senior Pastor of a local church where he and Jan served for seven and a half years, until he was called by God to devote his full-time energy to the ministry of Family Foundations International.