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If you are in a relationship and you plan to go far, at one time you will have to introduce in-laws to your folks....

If you are in a relationship and you plan to go far, at one time you will have to introduce in-laws to your folks. Meeting your in laws can give you that slim sweat especially if you have never met them, questions will be running through your mind like, what will they think of me? What will be the first impression. Their is no any one time that introductions cannot take place. It will depend on some factors like, how serious the relationship is, how past introductions turned out to be , how tight the parent-child relationship is and finally on culture. There might be other factors but these are the major ones. Meeting in-laws should be a purposeful and well planned event. If it fails to be done there might a problem with your relationship.

In a case where only one partner pressurizes on the issue of meeting in laws, while the other partner is hesitant, it leaves a lot to be desired. There is a possibility that the hesitant partner does not place any value in meeting the parents either because he disregards their input in your lives or because he has not fully incorporated you into his life. The person might be afraid of commitment, embarrassed to introduce in-laws or worse still he does not see your future together. After meeting the in-laws, chances are that they will want to know more about you. They may become part of your life. What is at stake if you meet the in-laws too soon? They might feel as if it is their responsibility to make sure the relationship succeeds. They will interfere with your relationship in an effort to make it last longer. You have to be careful not to abuse their egos if you choose to live independently without their input.

Just as dating advice, if you are dating someone who you do not share culture with, it is wise to understand the norms and most importantly the different cultural affiliations. If looked from the right perspective, interracial dating can widen the couples mind. When time comes when you have to introduce in-laws, try as much as possible to conceal your personal reservations and embrace the new culture. You should show your folks and your mate that you are ready to acknowledge his/her way of life. This is an important step which makes it easy for the in-laws to integrate you in to their family. This shows that you and your partner will have a peaceful lifetime together. He will reciprocate in bridging the racial and cultural differences.

You might even be having an experience where you had invited your lover to come over at your parent’s house for supper or for lunch. Your parents were very observant and not a thing about your lover missed their eyes. After your lover was gone, your mother or father commented about his skin race, accent, mannerisms and may be family background. Their is more tolerance in our today’s world compared to the ancient days. To introduce in-laws successfully, make a point of briefing your parents or the mate about existing differences because they still intrigue them if they get them unaware. Such comments will be avoided and incase exist they will be positive comments.



Source by Francis Githinji

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